Boundarytime Articles & Commentary

  • When children say “I don’t care,” it can mean many things.  When uttered (with or without words) by children with an attachment disorder it conveys intense feelings of hurt and shame. “I don’t care” is their attempt to cover up the wound even while pointing to it.  What the words really mean: “This is where ...
  • I taught a Psychology 101 course at a local college for a few semesters and each time  assigned one short paper.  In that paper students had to demonstrate the ability to formulate a single question, a question they genuinely did not know the answer to and one that affected their life.  They also had to ...
  • Just finished reading Josh Linkner’s  book, Disciplined Dreaming.  I strongly recommend for anyone who wants to enhance their business through creativity.  This book is down to earth with numerous examples that illustrate how to apply a creative approach to a variety of business challenges.  His belief in and promotion of co-creative process is evident in ...
  •   Coping mechanisms are attitudes and behaviors we rely on to deal with stress and mediate life’s circumstances. They will always cause us more problems than they started out helping to the extent that they are efforts to deny or avoid real issues.  Why?  Because denial and avoidance only work for periods of time, then ...
  • When two whole, flexible boundaries meet it creates authentic relational space.  This is space that is neither “You” nor “Me.”  This is “Us” space.  This space is healing and magical.  It is co-created because it allows both parties to experience new limits and new possibilities. Boundaries that are torn due to trauma or loss, and boundaries ...