Healthy relationships require healthy boundaries.
But what does “boundary” really mean? It is most often viewed as a separating factor, a wall people construct to regulate and protect themselves in their interactions with the world. But a person’s boundary of self is, in fact, not a wall. It is a flexible, connecting fabric that interweaves limits and possibilities, defines our space as individuals and shapes our potential for satisfying relationships.
Damaged boundaries cause pain.
Trauma, loss and shame cause ruptures and create holes in a person’s boundary, resulting in emotional pain and a feeling of being stuck. When this happens, people often resort to coping strategies. These are traits and behaviors that help eliminate stress and avoid negative consequences. Coping strategies, however, only paper over the holes in a wounded self-boundary; they do not heal the underlying damage. People arrive at therapy stuck in pain and turmoil that coping strategies no longer alleviate.
Boundarytime®: Getting past coping and restoring movement.
There is hope! Injured boundaries can be repaired. Boundarytime® is a therapeutic, relational approach that offers a proven framework for healing.