Author Archives: John Olesnavage

Attachment Disorder- The "I Don't Care" Disease

Posted on January 5, 2013 by John Olesnavage

When children say “I don’t care,” it can mean many things.  When uttered (with or without words) by children with an attachment disorder it conveys intense feelings of hurt and shame. “I don’t care” is their attempt to cover up … Continue reading →

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Question Based Academics

Posted on August 1, 2011 by John Olesnavage

I taught a Psychology 101 course at a local college for a few semesters and each time  assigned one short paper.  In that paper students had to demonstrate the ability to formulate a single question, a question they genuinely did … Continue reading →

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Demystifying Creativity

Posted on July 11, 2011 by John Olesnavage

Just finished reading Josh Linkner’s  book, Disciplined Dreaming.  I strongly recommend for anyone who wants to enhance their business through creativity.  This book is down to earth with numerous examples that illustrate how to apply a creative approach to a … Continue reading →

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Do Coping Mechanisms Always Come Back to Bite Us?

Posted on June 14, 2011 by John Olesnavage

  Coping mechanisms are attitudes and behaviors we rely on to deal with stress and mediate life’s circumstances. They will always cause us more problems than they started out helping to the extent that they are efforts to deny or … Continue reading →

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Co-created Boundary Experience

Posted on June 7, 2011 by John Olesnavage

When two whole, flexible boundaries meet it creates authentic relational space.  This is space that is neither “You” nor “Me.”  This is “Us” space.  This space is healing and magical.  It is co-created because it allows both parties to experience … Continue reading →

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My Powerful Question

Posted on May 31, 2011 by John Olesnavage

I have investigated the concept of boundary and how it affects relationship since 1995.  This process has led to many personal and professional breakthroughs.  The two most notable achievements: -A definition of boundary that explains the dynamics of a healthy … Continue reading →

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Safety Is The Connecting Link for Children

Posted on May 26, 2011 by John Olesnavage

I work with children and teens who are the victims of bullying behavior.  They display anxiety, depression, and shame.  These symptoms and their cause are obvious and treatable.  What about teenage girls who are anorexic or cutting themselves?  These issues … Continue reading →

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Children Should Have a Dream

Posted on April 18, 2011 by John Olesnavage

Dreams Aren’t Just For Fairy Tales! Children burdened with anxiety are often not able to embrace the idea of having a dream.  For these children, dreams are seen as a source of stress and potential failure.  They may be receiving … Continue reading →

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The Young Veteran and PTSD

Posted on March 22, 2011 by John Olesnavage

The Young Veteran and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) While there are many similarities in the PTSD conditions we are seeing in veterans returning from Afghanistan and Iraq compared to Vietnam Veterans, there are also significant differences.  Unlike the Vietnam … Continue reading →

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The Cure for Stuck

Posted on March 16, 2011 by John Olesnavage

As a therapist I often see children who are “stuck.”  These are children who are trapped in anger, rage, and depression.   When parents ask me what they can do, I often suggest a simple starting point.  “Play with your child.”  … Continue reading →

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