Children Should Have a Dream

Posted on by John Olesnavage

Dreams Aren’t Just For Fairy Tales!

Children burdened with anxiety are often not able to embrace the idea of having a dream.  For these children, dreams are seen as a source of stress and potential failure.  They may be receiving a message from their parents that dreams lead to disappointment, or they may see that fear being played out in their parent’s lives.

A primary goal in therapy with children is to help them regain a sense of security and  happiness.  When a child is able to identify with a dream (NFL quarterback, policeman, musician, doctor, etc.) we know progress is being made.  Dreams restore hope.  This is not, as some might view it, false hope.  Hope is hope.  It is future based and honors what is alive, passionate, and filled with possibility.   Living in the present is often painful for children, especially those who have suffered trauma, abuse, or neglect.  Dreams have the power to transport and transform.

Honor and support your child’s dreams.  Let them know you believe in them.  There will be ample time to be “realistic.”

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