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Question Based Academics

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I taught a Psychology 101 course at a local college for a few semesters and each time  assigned one short paper.  In that paper students had to demonstrate the ability to formulate a single question, a question they genuinely did … Continue reading

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Do Coping Mechanisms Always Come Back to Bite Us?

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  Coping mechanisms are attitudes and behaviors we rely on to deal with stress and mediate life’s circumstances. They will always cause us more problems than they started out helping to the extent that they are efforts to deny or … Continue reading

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Co-created Boundary Experience

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When two whole, flexible boundaries meet it creates authentic relational space.  This is space that is neither “You” nor “Me.”  This is “Us” space.  This space is healing and magical.  It is co-created because it allows both parties to experience … Continue reading

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My Powerful Question

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I have investigated the concept of boundary and how it affects relationship since 1995.  This process has led to many personal and professional breakthroughs.  The two most notable achievements: -A definition of boundary that explains the dynamics of a healthy … Continue reading

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Children Should Have a Dream

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Dreams Aren’t Just For Fairy Tales! Children burdened with anxiety are often not able to embrace the idea of having a dream.  For these children, dreams are seen as a source of stress and potential failure.  They may be receiving … Continue reading

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The Cure for Stuck

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As a therapist I often see children who are “stuck.”  These are children who are trapped in anger, rage, and depression.   When parents ask me what they can do, I often suggest a simple starting point.  “Play with your child.”  … Continue reading

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Our Boundary Teaching Entrepreneurs

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Meet You At The Boundary Have you ever had a single momentary experience that you knew- just knew– would likely change your life forever?  I was fortunate enough to have such a moment in 1995 when my graduate school advisor … Continue reading

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Boundary Psychology: Panic and Anxiety Attacks

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Why That Panic Attack Might Be Your Best Friend You’re driving along and it hits you, seemingly out of nowhere.  Shortness of breath, sweating, heart palpitations, fear that you are out of control and might crash at any moment.  Many … Continue reading

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Please Don’t Call Them “Bullies”

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When did we start believing it was okay to call a child, even one who is displaying terrible behavior, names?  And, did we ever stop to think this is an extension of the same behavior we are trying to eliminate? … Continue reading

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